Friday, May 25, 2012

Feeling Sad Today

I had the most wonderful neighbors, a young couple with two children.  I will have to say they have been the best neighbors I have ever had.
I can still remember when we were moving in to our home and Wendy came over to see if she could help.  She was pregnant at the time and there was no way we were going to let her help.  This is just the kind of neighbor she and her husband were always there to give a helping hand.  When we left for the Summer Wendy watched our home like a hawk and we never worried about our home.

I will never forget when Frank ended up in the hospital and we were told he had a mass in his stomach.(It ended up that he didn't)  Wendy called me on my cell, and when she found out I was by myself, she left her family right in the middle of dinner, and drove 45 miles to be with me.  This is just the kind of person she is, never giving a second thought about helping a person in need.  They were our neighbors for almost eight years and we grew to love them like family. The kids called us Grandma and Grandpa and that thrilled us.  Wendy had us go to grandparents day a couple of times as the other grandparents lived too far away to be there.

When Frank had surgeries, Kyle would watch for us to come home and would be right there to help Frank out of the car and into the house.  I could go on and on about all the things they did for us.

Then the day came when Wendy came to my door in tears telling me that they had lost their home, and they were going to move.  We cried together.  Kyle had lost his job twice, and because of this, they got behind in their house payments and could never get caught up.  Another family caught up in the bad economy.  Wendy told me they were moving just a few minutes away from us and that we would still get to see each other, but I knew it wouldn't be the same as having them next door, and it hasn't been.

Frank went over to their place a few weeks ago to get our flat bed trailer from them, and Wendy broke the news that they were moving again, this time to Arizona. Kyle found a really good job there, and Frank and I agree you have to go where there is work. When Frank came home and told me, once again I felt sad knowing that they would be so far away.  They are moving this weekend.  I took the kids a travel bag of games to play in the car as a farewell gift, and I couldn't believe how much they have grown since they moved from our neighborhood.  As I left the kids gave me a hug and told me Goodbye and a thank you Grandma. Wow! I love being called Grandma.  A tear in my eye started to form, and I quickly said goodbye with a promise from Wendy they would come and see us as they will be coming back the next two weekends. Her brother lives two house away from us.

The house next door sits empty, but every time I look over there I remember the wonderful neighbors that lived there and sometimes I can see the kids playing and hear their laughter.  I sure hope someday soon I will be fortunate enough to have some new friendly neighbors move in, but I know that no one will compare to Wendy and Kyle.

Thursday, May 3, 2012

A New Thought From Facebook

The Secret
If you find yourself in a negative situation with someone in your life, take a few minutes each day to feel love within your heart for that person, and then send it out into the Universe. Just doing this one thing helps to remove any resentment, anger, or negativity towards that person.

Remember that feeling resentment, anger, or any negative emotion attracts it back to you. Feeling love attracts love back to you. What you are feeling for another, you are bringing to you. From The Secret Daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne

I guess I keep picking up on these types of things because I have had a hard time dealing with my estranged family.  The pain in my heart has been a constant part of my life over the past eight years.  I have decided, I have to let it go and I think I will try to do the above and also put it in God's hands.  


I am so proud of Frank as he has now lost 60 lbs on his Medifast Diet.  Now he wants to get below the 200 mark and has just ordered his last order of food.  He has modified the diet and it is working for him.  He is really tired of salads, so he has been eating raw broccoli and cauliflower, along with turkey sandwich meat, hot peppers, and dill pickles.  He has been active by doing yard work and other things around the house.  
I keep telling him he looks like the man I married 34 years ago.


We are so excited as I was able to tie up a beach house in Lincoln City, OR.  We decided that it would be so much easier than towing our fifth wheel, and having to set it up every time we moved to a new location, plus the cost of fuel, etc.  It would average out to be about the same in cost.  If Frank has to have surgery on his shoulder, it would be hard for him to do all the things you have to do traveling with a fifth wheel.  We will be able to explore more of the Oregon coast that we haven't seen, go explore BC, and visit my sister in Washington.  We will be two blocks from the ocean, and we can walk to the beach and explore it.